Just Love Each Other

Looking back at my “relationship ladder” I am grateful I have grown through my expectations, or my clutching at relationship to keep my self esteem tidied under a “belonging” or “identity” label.  My Guides often say when we look back at old relationships, just love one another.  I mean we did experience love.  Does it have to go away entirely in the face of disappointment?

The rocky road of clients separating or divorcing one another, hurts as they squabble over children or material safety, some men still often getting the higher share of spoils while women boldly leave just wanting to get free.  So many women plunge into the economic despair of low-end jobs or any jobs they can find – relieved to be able to support their children even though it is hard.  I have known many to say that they just wanted to be free.  But in our world freedom still needs money.  And the children sometimes are bounced between accusations and vengeances. 

We haven't reached the evolution of a matriarchal society with the focus on raising our children as  humanity’s future.  Yet we start out in love, then getting married or having children, putting our partners in a revered position in the basic structure of our lives.

I wonder what would happen if we did honour them?  Even if they are broken and leaving is the only way to become whole.  What would happen if we looked at them and revered who they are in essence?  I wonder.   I mean, instead of trashing one another in the heart of our pain.  Most of the pain comes because we have the illusion of the picket fence, the safe haven, the forever love. Sometimes it is because we can’t unfold or become more of our true nature in the forever-after context.  The controls and competitions are too great.  Or in some cases, whether from the abuses or even the empathy, couples can be locked in limitations.  You have to leave to grow.

 

But what would happen if in the process of sorting through our pains we just loved one another?  Would it help our children grow into self reflecting people with compassion and understanding for others?  Would it help us find peace on the planet?